Intimate Backyard Wedding in Montreal
Ainsley and Olivier had a beautiful, intimate commitment ceremony at home. Some of their closest family and chosen family bore witness to the exchange of personal vows before they opened their home to even more chosen family and friends. This was the first day of a weekend-long celebration of community, commitment and love in all its forms.
My friend, Kama officiated for them and said the most beautiful words during the ceremony – words much more beautiful than I can come up with, so I’ll leave you with an excerpt from her words instead:
“When two people actually love each other so well.
When they hold each other in such high esteem and respect.
When they carve spaces to uphold truth and honesty in the everyday rituals of their existence.
I believe, it is important, for us, to bear witness.
When after 13 years of a relationship, enough to have known better and worse, rich and poor, sickness and health, and probably many spiritual deaths and rebirths, when after 13 common years of coming into being as adults in the world, both as individuals and as two people who love each other, you decide to have a commitment ceremony, I believe, it is very important (& a true honour) for us, to bear witness.
I believe, it is important for us, to bear witness. because bearing witness is a gift. because bearing witness is a blessing. because bearing witness is an expression of commitment, in itself.
And I also think that it is important for us to bear witness, because it is important for us to remember how to love, and how to love well. To be reminded of that commitment. And in bearing witness, we also remind Ainsley and Olivier how to love, and how to love well.
Ainsley and Olivier —
Your love is the love of truth.
Your love is the love of integrity.
Your love is the love of honesty.
Your love is the love of two humans intentionally honouring each other’s complexities.
Your love is the love of reinvention and re-imagination.
Your love is the love of bloodlines traced in silver in the night sky.
Your love is the love of kindness and generosity, raw like an open heart, red like rose petals on an altar.
Your love is the love of displaced bloodlines, roaming the earth itching for a place to call home.
Your love is the love that was dreamt when the sun rose east and the warm winds blew from Singapore to Canada.
Your love is the love that was promised and gave birth to itself as it traveled from the Czech Republic to Québec.
Your love is the healing of wounds.
The settling of dust after a long battle.
The surge of courage when two human beings decide
To stand in their own light,
To stand in their own truth,
To hold each other accountable.
To bind your souls in sacred vows until the end of time.”
Olivier & Ainsley – Thank you so much for having me, and letting me in on such an important part of your story. x
PS. If you want to know where the Ainsley’s two incredible dresses came from, they are both from Boutique Lustre in Montreal.